Frustrated at Forty

Whoa.
Last night or this morning – I’m not quite sure when – I had a dream where I was in bed and my wife was in her ‘normal’ spot to my right.  It varied from being light outside to being dark and that confused me a bit more.  I felt someone get into the bed on my left side.  I assumed it was a kid as that’s not that out-of-the-ordinary.
You know that feeling that you can judge the size of the person getting in bed by the way the mattress compresses?  Well, this was an adult getting in bed.
In my laziness, I sort of looked and it was Best Friend!
The fact that she was in bed was not surprising enough for me to notice – kind of like it was normal.
In my dream, I stayed ‘asleep’ but kept trying to get the dream to get more involved.  I would picture the two of them kissing, caressing, eachother.
I need to get this part out in the open – I have never had a sexual dream involving Best Friend.  Yes, last year I got a hard on while hugging her goodbye once at lunch.  Yes, we long to have someone hold us since we don’t get that from our spouses and we have thought of ways to have a cuddle session but again – not sexual.  I don’t know why multiple partners hasn’t ever been on my lists of things to do.  I think it’s partly because I tend to think things through a bit too much.
Two Guys/One Girl – The thought of watching some other guy fuck my wife is not a turn on.  I can’t think of any reason to watch this happen.  I would be pissed off – no matter how much she may enjoy it.  If there were something that someone else could do for her that I was physically unable to do for her… maybe – but I cannot think of an instance.  Watching her flirt with someone or watching her in a crowd setting – like dancing – is a bit different in that I always knew that she was going home with me.  Sex though – don’t see it.  The bi-guy thing isn’t going to work with me either.  I have gone on record in the past that given the situation where you didn’t know who was sucking your dick – a blowjob from a guy would be no different from a blowjob from a girl.  I have never been in that situation but I’m just saying that if it were dark and somebody just started sucking my dick – I would not think ‘hey, this tongue seems more masculine’.  Me sucking someone’s dick – not going to happen – ever.  Some guy fucking me – never going to happen.
Two Girls/One Guy – I think that guys are brought up thinking that this would be the coolest thing.  I always think that the guy is the ‘third wheel’ in this situation.  It’s almost physically impossible to pay attention to both girls at the same time and at that point that you do cum, you have almost lost your usefulness to the party.  I’m not saying its not possible – I just don’t think it’s very realistic.  Having two girls pleasure me – that would be nice but again, not very realistic.  I have to concentrate so hard on NOT cumming that there is not way that I could handle that kind of dual stimulation.  Is what I’m getting at is that it would be a quick release and then I’m pretty much just another pair of hands and mouth for a bit.  If the two girls were bi-curious it could be a bit more exciting but again I would have to ask what that other girl could offer to my wife that I couldn’t offer?  Is it arousing to watch two girls go down on eachother or just to see a really passionate kiss?  Hell yes!  Is it still arousing if one of those girls is your wife?  Sadly, not as much for me.
Deep down I think those who are able to enjoy sex with multiple partners have to have a very strong relationship and communication.  To be able to wash away the fear that your partner would enjoy someone else more than you or even to the point of leaving you for someone different because of something that was done during a session is pretty amazing.  Those who do enjoy it that write blogs seem very confidant with eachother or are so young in the relationship that it doesn’t mean much if the relationship soured.
Anyway, back to my dream.  So I’m in my bed with my wife and my best friend.  They are in jammies and I’m in my underwear.  Still dreaming, I try to picture them together and try to imagine them kisssing, undressing, and more.  The dream never goes anywhere.
The whole dream was just the three of us in bed.  Nothing more.  Best friend cuddled up next to me and wife didn’t seem to mind at all.
I woke up happy that I was touched but a bit weirded out by the whole crazy dream.