Frustrated at Forty

While on the topic of self pleasure - here’s my two cents’ worth on the matter.  I used to subscribe to the thoughts that you will blow up - or meet some other dire end - if you do not ‘release’.  That motivated most of my early masturbation.  As I grow older - there are times that I just want to make sure everything still works.
There are those few times that I am just so ready to have sex and when I realize that it’s not going to happen - I take matters into my own hand.
I am a proud proponent of taking nude and pornographic photos of each other.  I believe that the sole purpose of this is to have something to masturbate to later.  Yes, you can just stroke your cock for no reason whatsoever.  It’s not as much fun though.  When you can look at pictures of you and your spouse fucking, sucking, dressed up, or otherwise having fun - it makes it more fun.  I am not one who thinks that unmarried people should take pictures - nothing good will come from that.  People break up and get mean.  When you are married, it’s you and your spouse.  Nothing wrong with that.  If you divorce and the photos come back to haunt you - you can always just say that you were married.  There’s no embarrassment in that.  Okay, don’t take pictures wearing the other’s lingerie - nothing good could come from that.
Anyway, we have lots of pictures throughout the years.  I really enjoy masturbating to those. It makes me remember the times and obviously from the pictures, we’re having fun.  I do not feel any guilt towards masturbating to naked pictures of my wife.
I will occasionally peruse the photographic offerings of the world wide web.  Although most of it makes me hard, I prefer to actually do the deed looking at pictures of my wife.  It is rare that I’ll yank it to just a photo.  I do sometimes feel like I’m ‘cheating’ if I crank one off to some random pictures.  I really like reading erotic literature - but only the stuff that sounds more real.  I’m not into the “My car broke down and the mechanic came and had to take off his overalls…”.  The stuff that sounds realistic I like.  It’s all probably made up.
Speaking of photos, here’s some things I like to take photos of.  I really don’t like lingerie when you are making love.  It’s not always soft.  It’s usually really expensive.  Those ‘outfits’ are rarely on long enough - maybe a few minutes and then I’m ripping them off.  But, I like taking photos of the before shots.  I really like the before and after shots.  I also like random pictures during sex.  The facial expressions are priceless.  There’s some website of women’s facial expressions during orgasm that I think really sums up the reason I like them.  Pure bliss.
If you want to do something fun during a dinner or some event.  Take your camera (now camera phones) and take a picture of your erect penis in the bathroom.  Then slip her the phone or camera and ask her to look through the pictures.  It’s a great way to initiate something for later.  I wish she would do the same to me, but as a guy, I really don’t need much initiation!
Photos are also a great equalizer to make yourself see your own body - and sometimes it’s faults.  Seeing my naked blubberly ass from December’s photos really made me get more fit this year.  I lost about 30 pounds, and started riding my bike.  I still have some to go - but nothing like what I was last December!
As for videos.  I’m not a fan of movies unless we’re watching them together.  A guy really doesn’t need any extra stimulation.  Just a simple kiss, a rub, a view of a naked breast - and I’m pretty much ready for action.  Movies are kind of nice in between sessions.  My latency period seems to be around 40 minutes, a movie can cut that to about 20 minutes but it has to be just right. I think that a good porn movie doesn’t have the 80’s synth background music and  again - is a bit more ‘real’ rather than the staged stuff.  Highlight reels.  I think there’s money in that!  Just show the ‘money shots’ - like 30 minutes of those.  That is guy porn.
Anyway, that’s my view on porn.  I don’t see how or why people pay for it - whether it be a magazine or online - there’s just so much free stuff out there.  If you go online, just disable all your cookies, disable java, and clear your cache afterwards!  I am amazed at people who spend hard earned money for pay sites.  It doesn’t make sense.
I’ll tell you about my views on strip clubs later…